Very easy today… it’s important that with understanding your enthusiastic sports fan side of things that the same happens for you. With this in mind, one simple question today…

What would be that important thing that you’d love your sports lover to say or do that would help to make it more conducive for you to want to watch or participate in sports with them? And, why?

We all have something. What’s yours? I can’t wait to hear your important thing!

K, so from these entries on remotes I’ve learned some interesting things that I hope will be beneficial to you all as well. I’ve found that a lot of this has to do with perspective. Often times the remote may be viewed as just a simple electronic that turns the television on and off while it’s seen by others as much, much more.

For the sports lover, there is an experience that happens with each start of each game. The important thing here is that we share in that experience, too.

One earlier comment on my blog was from a guy who said he was excited about this site because through it he’ll be able to talk to his wife about more than just bills. Trust me when I tell you that your special person really does want to share with you about that ridiculous (ridiculous is very good here) play that happened in the Playoffs this weekend or the soccer move that was the best ever. That person just needs to feel that those plays are just as important as the person who jumped in front of you at the grocery store… perspective, right?

The multi-faceted remote was a jump start to get us into the mindset that sports is more than a past time for our significant other… there’s a love there, a passion, past dreams, hopes deferred, aspirations to come, seasons to remember. And what a friendship that can develop in just seeing someone else’s perspective.

So, how was the remote control question session? I actually hope it was insightful and relaxing. And, if you haven’t gotten around to it, just take some time to do it. It may not appear to be a big deal (Believe me, it is… try to change the channel with 11 seconds left in a game.), but understanding your sports fan means understanding the things that person love.

You know, part of my research is actually just asking my husband what he thinks about this, that, or the other. Well, remote clarification is no different… I wanted to know from his perspective why the remote was so important and what it would compare to for women. His answer came free flowing (LOL!)!

He said “everything”. That was it. I was like, I need more information, Babe (He was really satisfied with the answer he gave! That was amusing to me.). He continued with the clear and concise statement that when he holds the remote in his hands he’s in control and everything else, although I make him believe he’s in control of, I actually control (Why would you think that, Babe?… You’re getting sleepy, sleepy.). I really appreciated his candor of explanation (and he was really quick to answer, too!). He helped me learn something about his desire and at the same time, our relationship (I’m serious that while writing this I am wiping away tears from laughing so hard… We laughed hysterically while he held the remote up in such proclamation.).

See how just asking opened communication, and in our case, added to our chest of funny stories to share.

Help me out here… Why is it that the infamous (now ergonomically designed) remote is somewhat of a misnomer? It’s just there looking up at us, confused by why we are confused by it (at least I like to believe that I’m not the only one confused in the room).

The remote is more than just a convenient tool used to turn off the television in order to get that all too precious quality time. Neither is it a handy boomerang (without the return effect) to quickly get your sports lover’s attention… (Doesn’t that sound better than just calling it a weapon?… Hilarious!). The remote is your friend and just like any other friendship; you have to do your part to make the relationship work.

This is a process, you know. And since we’re still identifying ‘why we sit on couch’ (Thanks for the comments so far! Keep sending them.), it would also be an outstanding feat if we can address the other happy couch components. Today it’s the remote…

So many buttons. So many colors. So many choices. Right? Well, here’s the way to abandon that fear and win the battle between you and the remote… Just ask. Yep! That simple (What did you think, it involved removing the batteries?). That sports fan would be delighted and surprised by your interest (I’m not just a spokesperson, I’m a client…). Ask what you want to know. You’ll be surprised by the results.

More to come on the remote…

It’s really amazing when there is a genuine love for something (in this case, sports). It’s actually also pretty incredible when you hold someone so dear that you learn to appreciate what they love because it’s an opportunity to share something special.

For me, I think it’s extremely necessary to identify the reason behind the action. Honestly, a lot of times a significant other won’t really care about the athlete on the court… You know, in regards to the particular happenings off the court. But, women do… we just naturally care. When we gain a greater understanding of who the athlete is off the court, that athlete becomes more than just a phenomenon, but a person-a real person. This person then becomes someone you can identify with and truly see yourself in.

That’s the goal! To make a genuine step toward putting a finger on why you’re sitting there on the couch (when you know you have to go to work the next day) or in the sports bar watching that game.

Personally, I fall in between the two… I truly love sports and I love the time sports allow my husband and I to spend together. I can laugh hysterically about a crazy Michael Jordan (Come on, you gotta love Mike!) moment or recall the great latter years of Magic (Notice I said ‘latter’… a lady never tells her age. Oh, and that’s Earvin “Magic” Johnson). And with that same passion and love I can debate my husband about why the Utah Jazz fans would “boo” Derek Fisher (now with the LA Lakers) every time he touches the ball when they know he left the Jazz to help save his daughter’s life (Uh, a no brainer, by the way.). Rarely, if ever, are we in different rooms when a game is on because in some way it becomes a special time between the two of us.

So, let’s identify this ‘why’ together… And, it’s okay wherever you fall on the spectrum. The main thing is to develop that ‘why’ and just go from there. I’m compelled to believe that no matter where you fall, sports can be an amazing vehicle to some wonderful times.

I’d love to hear your ‘why you sit on the couch’ story…

Derek Fisher is some guy, huh? And his role on the court, which requires commitment, continues to be a testament to him as a complete man.

A very hearty phrase if you think about it. A person coming up the court with the ball eventually meeting up with a potentially equal opponent that shares the same position… In this case, guard. Now, while this guard is ‘pushing’ the ball so eloquently up the court there is a decision that has to be made. Shoot or pass? Each decision carries game-winning (or -losing) consequences. As the opponent is ‘posting’ (it means seriously in my personal space) up in an attempt to get the ball or at least make the handler miss, the handler has to think quickly and soundly.

The ‘You Can’t Guard Me’ phrase is a basketball staple! It basically gives the strong message that you won’t win in this one-on-one situation. Beyond that, it says that if you try to guard me, you will get your feelings hurt (I am laughing hysterically at this explanation). This is the mental conversation that happens all throughout the game. It’s actually quite entertaining if you ask me. Note to self: Be sure to watch Fisher on the court… He says like three words the whole game, which doesn’t totally support the whole trash-talking part of the story, but he’s a guard none the less.

Take this with you… a guard is like the coach on the court and with that; a ballooned ego is an ill-advised ego. This advanced thinker of the game has to be all of these things, too:

So now you can confront your various situations with the unmitigated proclamation, You Can’t Guard Me!

The phrase is all too familiar. You jump into your snugly position on the couch, smiling expectantly about the news of the day that is just waiting to pounce off your lips. You glance at the television, curious at best, wondering what is competing with you for your significant other’s attention. Realizing it’s the seasonal disruption-sports-you begin listing off all the happenings from your day. Then, there’s the dreadful silence. It comes after you’ve asked if your question was heard…

“Wait ‘tila commercial”…

…The customary, yet horrifying reply starts you on your way. And, as you walk into the other room-slightly disgruntled of your untimely and suggestive dismissal-you ponder on how you’d love to understand the fascination.

We all know someone who wants to understand sports or maybe that someone is you. This site caters to the everyday woman desiring an avenue to understanding sports. This newfound knowledge can bridge the immeasurable gap between quality time and the love of the game.

Look forward to snapshots into professional athletes’ ups and downs of life and find yourself in their stories. With compelling and informative stories, along with various insights on the game, you’re sure to appreciate the fascination and total love of the game.